Kezia Noble | Pick Up Artist (PUA) | Worlds leading female pick up artist

My idea of a good number close is to make it appear as though you never asked.

Wait for the conversation to get to its climatic point ,whether that would be through making a deep connection, or making her laugh to the point of tears. You have to at that very moment, end the conversation!
And say:

“I’ve really enjoyed OUR conversation, but I’m being really rude here,because my friends are waiting for me”
This will make it seem that she is the one who has been keeping you there from your friends; furthermore, it allows you to demonstrate that although you have enjoyed yourself you have other plans. (always keep your audience wanting more)

Its vital you pick that climatic point of the conversation carefully, as it is common for guys to go beyond that point. After that intense moment of connection there is inevitably a lull, which, might confirm the fact that your still strangers and her barriers might return.

Quite literally many guys “miss the boat” in this situation.

Next, look at your watch, as you get up from your seat/down your drink/gather your cigarette packet and lighter and say

“We should carry on with this another time”

“Should” is the key word here. It’s more effective than “Can I” or “it would be nice”

Get out your phone before she has a chance to respond and hand it to her; tell her to tap in her number. Do this before she has a chance to react or, time to think “Should I give my number to this stranger? I’ve only known him for a few minutes, what if he’s a weirdo? I cant believe he thinks he can get my number this easy etc etc”

You must ALSO say:
“Right, when you have done that make sure you put it under a nickname, I can tell a lot about someone by there self appointed nickname, you know, how creative they are etc…”

This is a major point to this technique; it covers 2 things at once
1. It distracts her from the act of actually passing on her details, as she will find the task much more entertaining (girls like this shit)
2. It will suggest that she has already accepted giving over her details (never underestimate the power of suggestion.)

Good sales people do this all the time. You go in the store to maybe buy an item you had in mind, notice the good sales person will not ask if you want to buy one, instead they will ask you how many you want. Making you believe you have already decided on it and now are in the process of worrying how many you actually need!

This is a great way to number close a woman; she can get cold feet about handing you her number, even if she likes you!

If its been a short and sweet encounter, she will be thinking “but I’ve only known
him for a few minutes”
Please don’t be tempted to think this yourself, going beyond that pinnacle point of an interaction can ruin your chances. Rather instead, use this little tip of setting the nickname task.

Remember when delivering the task, do so with absolute self-assurance that she will perform – give a cheeky smile but remain dominant. (As always when you are giving a task)

“The man who makes chemistry understands the interaction starts before a word has been spoken or eyes have even met”

Pre approach is the little few minutes or sometimes few seconds you have before the interaction begins, and boy oh boy aren’t those few seconds important. In this section we will be looking at how you can get yourself in the appropriate state before talking to a woman and how to prepare your self in terms of logistics. You will learn how to assess the situation in a manner that will be discreet. You will also learn how to extinguish any niggling doubts and last second nerves that even the best pick up artists get from time to time, but most importantly you will learn the art of never becoming outcome depending ever again.

This week we will be looking at..

Assessing the situation

Women are masters of this art! We are watching everything. We know who is coming through that door and who is leaving, we know whether the guy we like the look of is popular, has a girlfriend or is gay very early on, just by discreetly looking at him. We have the skill of “assessing the situation” down to a fine art. This applies to assessing other woman too. We are aware of when a stunning looking woman has walked in to the room, and we are also aware if other people are aware of her presence too. Yet men seem to be oblivious to how obvious they can be when they are the ones assessing situation. Its as if they are in the own bubble, and no one can see their facial expressions every time a hot girl walks by, or when they are standing in the middle of the room staring at a large group of girls, whilst everyone around them is dancing and having a good time. So here is some advice from a woman, who manages to assess situations without anybody realising it, even though I’m half blind! (I refuse to wear my glasses in public)

Before we get to the “opening line” we must first look at what is going on in that head of yours, the moment you actually spot the girl you wish to approach. First of all, if you’re a beginner, check out what the situation exactly is. There is a correct way of doing this in a discrete manner. You might think you are being discreet hanging around near her for ages, but be warned, woman are very aware of those guys who hang around them for longer than is necessary,

When this common scenario takes place, there seems to be 2 parallel universes going on. On one hand, the man believes that he’s being subtle and he thinks she’s not yet aware of his presence, she on the other hand is only too aware of his presence, in fact, she spotted him from the corner of her eye ages ago, she also knows very well that he’s struggling desperately to pluck up the courage to speak her, unfortunately the more he is delaying the moment the more he is decreasing his chances.

When me and my friends go out, we always laugh amongst each other (well, not me since I’m a little more sympathetic due to the nature of my work) at the guy who aimlessly stands close to us, bobbing his head uncomfortably and out of sync with music, every time one of us looks over, he looks away and then back, he attempts to smile at us now and again, and more often than not this guy will start looking at his cell phone at an imaginary text a few times too many. This whole charade can last for ages, and by the time he has unsubtly danced his way over to the group from the chosen spot he seemed to be stuck to. He has unfortunately near to no chance of pulling anyone from the group. It sadly becomes apparent that he is unaware that he has been the cause of our giggling for some time.

There is of course a way to prevent this. If you are going with a friend to a bar or a club, a great way to check out the woman in the place, and of course to assess the situation of a particular woman, is to have your friend in front of you whilst you are talking to each other, Never EVER have him on the side of you, as it will become too obvious to the woman that you decide to check out. Girls hate going to the bar to get a drink when there is a long line of guys there, shoulder to shoulder. Their heads turn simultaneously as she walks by them, and again, she is fully aware even if those guys think they are being discreet.

If you are talking with your friend face to face, it shows first of all that you are there enjoying the company of your friend(s) regardless of whether there are hot woman all over the place, it shows you are content to take your time and enjoy your evening at your leisure. The clever part is that not only can you get a lot more of an idea of the situation but you can also do it more discretely without her or her friends suspecting. Now and again you look over your friends shoulder, to see whats going on, he can also be assessing the situation behind you, in case something better comes along. This way you can literally have eyes at the back of your head, you get a 360-degree view of the room. Woman have plenty of subtle signals that we give each other when we spot someone we like, or someone we want to get away from, or someone who we think is attached, why don’t you guys get some more of these subtle signals.

I think it’s funny that sometimes when I’m walking behind 2 guys in the street, and when turns around and see me, then he whispers something to his friend, who will automatically look at me to, and then he will stop dead in his tracks and look over to the nearest shop window, and wait for me to go by so he can check out the back of me too, just in case I had a tail or something like that.

I once said to a guy who did this as I went passed him.

“Next time you want to check me out from the back, it’s a good idea you don’t pick a “Mothercare” store to look at first.

What you are looking for

A true pick up artist sees less between him and his target, than another man normally would, What the average man may see as obstacles that are in the way, such as the chance she may have a boyfriend, or the fact she might be a bitch, or whether she’s with a large group of people, a mixed group, where by there are men with her as well as woman, or whether she looks angry or not, A pick up artist will not see these as obstacles, in fact his view point will take a 180 degree turn, and as a result, he will see some of these so called obstacles as positives. For example.

If she looks like a bitch, then maybe everyone else is thinking the same thing, there for she’s probably getting hassled much less, then the friendly girl.

If she’s with a large group of friends, rather than seeing this as a hindrance, he will see this as a way of making it easier, to approach her, as she will fill less venerable than if she was on her own or with just another friend, and if she doesn’t like him then she’s always got another few good-looking girl friends he can get an intro to. (Note, the very fact a man shows he is not scared of opening a large group of woman, gives him extra points before he has even finished his first sentence)

If you learn the techniques that teach you the ways that give you the ability to crush these obstacles, and of course you practice and perfect them you will begin to see EVERY woman as a potential. But if you are beginner then its best to not plunge in to the deep end, you don’t want to start off approaching mega bitches, or girls who are in a long-term relationship. Especially since we have not covered those areas yet. Keep it relatively easy when you start.

As a beginner you should be looking out for the following:

Is she getting hassled a lot? If the answer is yes then try to see what the guys seem to be doing that is making her reject them, and watch how she is rejecting them too.

See who she is with, is it a mix group? if the answer yes, could one f those guys be her boyfriend?

If she is in a big group of girls, check to see if she is the alpha or the leader of the group, and if she’s not, then who Is?

See what sate she is in, is she in a high energy state, where by she’s dancing laughing, possibly drinking and basically showing to everyone how much fun she is having? Or is she in a low energy state where she seems to be sitting, not really laughing too much and barley dancing. This will determine what energy state you should approach her with.

Check out the area around her, where are you going to stand or sit when talking to her, you want to be in the best position possible, if she’s sitting down, look to see if there is a near by chair you can grab, or if there is room next to her, you don’t want to be crouching next to her knees on the floor for half an hour, and you don’t want to be standing up looking down at her for too long either. Be careful when you see an empty space next to her at a crowded bar, this space is empty for a reason, and it’s probably because that spot is the part of the bar where the staff walks through. You don’t want to talk to her, with bar and waiting staff asking you to move every 2 minutes.

A student, the other week, asked my advice on what he should have done in a certain situation, which happened to him the previous night. He went to a club which had a really hot looking woman, with two particular women dancing on the floor doing a “light” lesbian dance routine.

You know the ones, where they aren’t really lesbians, and think its amusing that all the guys will notice them and want them, rather than the other hot girls in the room. Anyway, they kept looking over at him, and gave strong eye contact as they danced provocatively together in the middle of the room,(the student in my opinion is a good looking guy, which is why they were probably giving him eye contact) he said he did not know how to handle the situation, and just left it, with that “what if?” frame of mind for the rest of the night.

I thought this was an interesting challenge and as I relish a challenge I looked in to it and came up with the females perspective of what he should have done and what he should not do.

Firstly I know loads of girls who do this, and why they say they do it and most importantly why they really do it.

These girls are not sex hungry vixens as they usually want you to imagine them to be, they usually are just what is known as an extrovert, they enjoy attention, they enjoy an ego boost and they like to “out do” rivals. The very fact they have seen other woman as rivals shows insecurity, this is the first point I want to address. If any one is insecure then they usually have a need to make themselves feel better, and its very common amongst insecure females to feel validated by male attention. We get it from female validation i.e. another woman saying to us that we have lost weight or our clothes/hair /makeup/looks lovely etc, but sometimes we need it from making a guy feel horny!

So whilst watching this fabulous display of fake lipstick lesbianism, keep that in mind! This might destroy the illusion a bit, but none the less, it will increase your chances of the final outcome, which is actually getting one or both of them at the end of the night (or at least a number)

I asked my student what the other men’s reaction was in the club to this. He told me not much to my surprise, either standing there drooling or trying to jump in and chat to them, about their names and showering them with compliments, a few alpha men were trying to step in and dance with them, only to be cast aside when the girls had got their required ego boost from him.

Being aware of what the majority are doing in any situation is vital; this is where impact comes in to play. You never want to go with the majority in this situation, even if it feels like the only option.

What he should have done

Now he knows the psychology behind why they are doing this, he will not get caught up in “the moment” of it all, he will be standing outside the illusion and observing as a spectator, but unlike the other guys in the room, not a horny one.

Go close to them when they are giving eye contact, but don’t start swaying to the music or sipping your drink excessively, just look at them with an appreciative smile.

Make the initial interaction when the songs changes, this always gives the dancer a moment break to adjust to the rhythm. it really is about 4- 10 seconds so act quick, lean in to one of them, and say.

“Thanks” They will look at you quizzically, they might react with “what for” they might not.

Tell them your friend/ex girlfriend what ever you decide called Candy or whatever name you choose (try and pick something a little out of the norm) was/is a dancer at (name a famous strip club) and that these 2 are just as good as her, but whilst she was doing it for hundreds of dollars a night they were doing it for free, and that’s great! So thank you!

This instantly will make them feel a little unworthy as whilst girls are being paid lots of money for this routine, they are standing there doing it for free.

You can also say

“Put a little more effort in to it, make more eye contact with each other rather than the guys, it will seem more real, other than your doing great”

Or

“If I ask the dj to play Ghostbusters will you be able to still be as sexy, that would be cool if you did” (little bit of humour, and a task)

Or

” I bet when you guys go home you put on your slippers and make a mug of cocoa and watch reruns of Frasier” (humour again an assumption)

Or

” Do you think if I did a fake gay dance with another guy it would make more impact, I bet it would? No offense but 2 guys dancing together in a straight club would be more shocking don’t you think?” (This is drawing the conversation to you rather than them, and also again a little bit of humour)

If your feeling really alpha, then step in between both and take over, by dancing with one and talking to the other over your shoulder, and telling her she should dance more like this, (do your moves) then remove yourself, and lead the other girl back to position, and fold your arms and say “now try again like that” (with a smile on your face)

All these will make you stand out from the other guys who are saying
“Oh wow you girls look hot’”
” So…hey…whats your name?”

Or the ones, who try to join in by simply swaying behind one of them,

What you would be doing is getting your self right in the middle and ordering them about, and then leaving out of your own accord, not because they pushed you out.

The other openers I gave were all negs; but negs with some constructive criticism, that also leave enough room for them to respond. Note also; that the negatives I gave were not aggressive, (men tend to come across a little aggressive with their negs when sexually aroused but not able to do anything about it). Be cheekier, if possible, rather than rude, this will make you stand out from the crowd, and increase your chances of them wanting to know you a bit more. They know that it will take more to get you turned on, and you will be one of the few, or the only man, in the room they did not get validation from; making them desire your validation more than the other guys.

Remember, you have to act as if you have seen this kind of performance loads of time, try and give them the impression that the girl who wants to be a slut/porn star on the surface is usually, when it comes down to it, quite inhibited. Unlike the quiet/shy ones who usually prove to be a little more, shall we say; experimental in the bedroom?