This article was written by one of my top wing girls on the team Hadassa.
She is a regular instructor on all our live events.
Enjoy this great blog post
So you’ve gone over volumes of theory and practiced hours of role-play on the art of picking up women. So with your newfound skills you make your way to the bar or club of your choice. There are plenty of girls BUT very few are on their own. Very few girls go on a night out alone, either they have been escorted by another man/boyfriend or accompanied by an army of girlfriends and sometimes the target is guarded by just one other fearsome girl and this can be the most difficult situation of all. Girls become fiercely protective of their friends who are approached by men and this is motivated by a few different reasons.
In this blog I will attempt to highlight a few common situations, sets and tips in getting the target away from their “bodyguards”.
Example; The Two Set.
To open this two set, say use an indirect opener that can appeal to both girls – this will avoid starting off on the wrong foot with one of them. I would recommend an opinion opener that will give them a chance to discuss it amongst themselves and will subconsciously make them feel more comfortable with revealing their answers to you. You can then, as you continue the conversation by following up the hooks given, focus on the Target.
It is likely that the Non-target will realise this and will either try and interrupt the conversation and take over or will attempt to drag her friend away, perhaps to find the rest of their party. The Non-Target may seem over protective and defensive, but it is more likely that she is covering the fact she is jealous that her friend has been approached and not she.
In this situation a Wing Man can be a great help and can distract the one you are not interested in while you continue talking to the Target. The Non Target will then be less jealous and will soon forget about protecting her friend.
However, if no Wing Man is available you have to manoeuvre your way around the Non Target on your own. To do this you can be nothing but polite and agreeable to the Non Target earning her respect and appreciation – as well as making her feel embarrassed at her own misdemeanours. The fact that you are polite to the Non Target will only earn you points with the Target. If you, as if often easy to, start being rude to the Non Target the Target will step in earnestly defending her friend. The Target will then be wary and uncomfortable spending more time in your presence, as this would be a betrayal of friendship.
As it is unlikely to escalate and kiss close (or in some cases even number close) a girl in front of her protective friend you may have to stop the conversation at some point and return to the Target later – catching her away from her group or perhaps with a different friend. In ending this set turn to the Target and compliment her friend. “You’ve got a wonderful friend here. Treasure her!”
The Target will be happy that you have appreciated her friend and the Non Target will have nothing bad to say of you.
Another way to include both girls and pick up great hooks along the way is to enquire as to whether they are best friends and to offer a best friends test, in which they are forced to answer questions about each other and assess if the answers are right or not – the conclusion being: the more correct answers, the better their friendship. You can be quite cheeky about the questions. Psychology tests are also great and you can find interesting ones all over the Internet.
Although I use the example of a two set the rules apply to sets of all different sizes. For pairs and groups you must offer something that they can all share and be involved in at least at first. Through their discussions you will accumulate a number of hooks from how they know each other (work, university etc) to their favourite movies/countries/hobbies etc. You should also bear in mind, that in larger groups it is important to keep the energy up at beginning as they are likely to be partying and your energy should match them. However, unlike the two set, in a group the Target will feel more comfortable in turning to talk to you alone as her friends will be distracted by each other and therefore less likely to turn on the defence – even a drunk attention seeking birthday girl will even lose interest leaving you to continue with your target without an audience.