A man who has what I call ‘natural advantage’ in other words ‘good looks’ has a slightly better chance in the ‘opening stages’ when he meets a woman in a club. (Don’t let anyone tell you this not true!)
But ONLY in the opening stage.
This means he is less likely to be ignored or dismissed immediately when he goes over to a woman and speaks to her. She will let him screw up his opening line, and forgive him for being a bit boring (if he is boring) for the first 5 to 10 minutes, but after that, if he doesn’t make any impact on her apart from his looks, then its game over.
I myself have been hit on by many very attractive men, in fact I have been hit on by men that are so good looking, that even other heterosexual guys have been checking him out with a purely non sexual gaze of appreciation.
Some of these handsome guys have done well, and PLENTY of them got nowhere with me or any of my friends either.
A good looking man is much like a very beautiful woman, often riddled with self doubts and a basic lack of belief and understanding in the INITIAL power they have on people who meet them.
Why I this?
A lot of good looking men have witnessed their far less good looking friends do well with the opposite sex, despite the fact that they are not as aesthetically pleasing as themselves, and as a result they end up convincing themselves that they are maybe..just maybe, not as hot as they believe. This is an extremely conflicting paradox that good-looking people face, and it’s hard for ‘average’ looking (for lack of a better word) people to understand how this can be possible.
The majority of very handsome men I have met, unintentionally reveal a very vulnerable side to them selves, which leaves an undesirable effect. It’s a conflicting paradox that is not attractive in any way shape or form. In fact, it’s repellent to women when they encounter it face to face.
If you consider your self to be below average in regards to the way you look, then YES, the opening stages are indeed very important, and its an area of pick up that you need to master, but once you have demonstrated high value, and a high level of self belief and a high level of confidence in the moment, then the rest of the interaction will be on the EXACT same level playing field as a ‘good looking’ guy.
Take this advice from a woman who has dated both good looking and NOT good-looking men!