Here I have written out a structure of the model we will be using today and have broke it down with a few examples

Johnny

Open

Compliment

Assumption/Opinion

Hook

Time Constraint

Close

-Open-

Be Direct
Allow Comfortable talking distance between you both
Approach from side. NEVER FROM BEHIND
Eye contact
Smile on approach
Project voice
use pauses and tone

-Compliment-

This is really random, but I’ve noticed you have a really natural beauty about you
Your tan is really cool, where did you get that
I love your confidence

-Assumption-

You look like you’re well travelled
how long have you been dancing for
When it comes to swimming your more of a doggy paddler

-Hook-

Use a thread from the 10 hook lead system to build rapport.
At height of the conversation cut the thread

-Time Constraint-

False time constraint to get out whilst she is feeling good and enjoying the conversation this anchors good feelings towards you and allows you to get out before the conversation hits a lull.

Listen I’ve really got to get back to work, I’ve really enjoyed talking to you actually. Put your number in there(hand phone) we should continue this conversation another time ( nick name number close, kiss cheek close) and get out of there buddy !
Remember guys, HOT women very rarely get approached in the day, increase your chances of bagging these girls by going direct – this separates you from just another guy that approached her in a nightclub or at a party and most importantly she will REMEMBER you ..

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I was having an interesting conversation with my wingman yesterday while stuffing our faces with awesome lamb chops… It is a good thing that my up-bringing kept my mouth shut while eating, thanks mum and dad… OK, yeah the conversation, hmm…

I always said that perseverance is very significant when it comes to life in general and gaming in particular. You cannot give up when you hit barriers regardless how big they may be. Following paragraph sums what I want to say in essence (credit to Stallone in Rocky):

Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get it and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now if you know what you’re worth then go out and get what you’re worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain’t you! You’re better than that!

Everyone has off days. Some days whatever you do may not work, because you are not congruent (you feel down, but putting up a charade of a happy bunny; you don’t really like her but talking to her for the sake of doing it and telling her that you like her, etc.) or you hit targets that simply are not available. It happens and it is just normal. Important thing is perseverance…

Two weeks ago, I and my wingman set up a challenge for ourselves as to who was going to get more same night lays. On the first night, wherever we hit was just either barren or lacking our type of women. After 3 hours and 5 bars, we looked at each other and quickly debated whether to quit the quest for the day. We decided to give it another hour. In the next bar, there were only hired guns (barmaids in this case) we genuinely liked. Dealing with their bitch-shields was so amusing. They brightened our mood! (Note: glass is half full attitude is very important for gaming my fellow PUA) We saw two women we liked and we began walking up to them. All of a sudden, my ‘radar’ picked up two other women who seemed more inclined for same night lay. I opened with something I call ‘sex shark’ technique. An hour later, we were making out and then half hour after that we closed the deal. I may write a Lay Report one of these days. The reason I wrote about this experience is totally different however.

Let’s look at the paragraph again.
My wingman and I keep pushing each other with challenges. We do not let a comfort zone to be established and keep encouraging each other to take a step further into unknown
Keep going and trying in the face of lack of opportunities, and difficulties
Dealing with situations (bitch shields, etc) in a way to amuse yourself, this is all about having fun at the end of day
Further on the last note, if your vibe centered on yourself rather than on the outcome of your interactions, when the opportunity present itself you can rise up to the challenge and ‘win’ it
Pay more attention to signs women sending out, do not be self-absorbed. Observe what’s going on around you and socially calibrate to resonate with your environment
Last week, my wingman had one of these ‘off-days’. He saw a girl he really liked, we approached them. His opening was so bad, I burst into laughter, women were like “Okayyy, bye!”. We were laughing our head off but I made sure we kept on going. Following approaches got better and better. In the last venue, we saw two nice girls sitting on their own, seemed to be waiting for their friends. There were being checked by guys in the bar but no one seemed to be brave or drunk enough to approach them. We discussed briefly who our targets were. My wingman wanted the more attractive one. So he had to open. We went up to them confidently and sit next to them. Half hour later, we moved them to another venue and an hour later to my place.

My wingman decided he really liked the girl so his ‘game’ changed accordingly. I decided that the girl I am talking to is not hot enough for me so I did not sexually escalate. I made a good friend and my wingman found someone he has been looking for, someone he got into gaming for.

Things to pick from this short story:
‘Rejection’ is part of gaming and it helps your game so much (worst case scenario, it makes you laugh real hard)
Do not make assumption like ‘she looks like a bitch’, ‘oh she must be waiting for her boyfriend’. Assumption is the mother of all big fuck ups
Your wingman is more important than any girl you are about to approach. So we before you approach, make sure you know who is going to target who. Otherwise, you may end up blowing yourself off in the set
Socially calibrate your game according to the situation and the your target. Not every girl you are talking to you should hit on sexually. Not every hot girl should be just another target. Know what you want. Otherwise you may lose a special girl for the sake of one night of pleasure
Lead the interaction, make venue changes if you can

Well I won the challenge with 3 same night lays, 2 last minute fuck ups in a week. Yahoo!

Next, I will be writing about approach anxiety and how to make it your best friend.

Peace.

Ali

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I firmly believe there are only two types of music: good and bad. Whatever genre of music you seemed to be obsessed with becomes insignificant when you hear a masterpiece. When you experience the masterpiece however, it changes you on so many levels. Game evolves around the same philosophy. There is good game and bad game. Rest is just word play.

Pick-up community, as every other innovative social development, began its life as a hub of crazy speculative ideas. One said black, one said white and rest was happy with grey. Then, formulas sprang out of that hub. Formulas defined the subsequent methods we will come to know, hate or love depending on where you are on the spectrum. Method Game dominated the pick-up community for a long time. Method Game due to its nature is restrictive, repetitive and recognisable. It has its merits. It gives you guidelines to follow; explain what needs to happen; and provides ready-made tools.

Does it work? Yes, it does. Does it work in all situations? Yes, if you understand that you need to alter your strategies depending on the circumstances. Does it feel strange to use? Yes, I am afraid it does after a while. Do I, as a pick-up coach, use method game? No.

Natural Game, on the other hand, is all about social improvisation. You look at a situation and jump right into it. In most cases, you do not even know what to say as an opener up until you catch your target’s attention. There are only very loose guidelines on how to create a connection with your target. You know you need to approach, number close and follow it up but that’s all about it really. Natural Game therefore requires personality, creativity, confidence and purpose. Personality, because it is you and her communicating about who you are, what you want in life, what you have been upto, what you are like, etc. Creativity, because you look at a situation and find ways to open her, have a fun and cool conversation. Telegraph your qualities in a non-needy way and creating a long-lasting connection. Confidence, because you have no scripted material to fall back on. It is all you and your goals that matter for you. You walk up to any set at will and turn on the attraction buttons. Purpose, because you know what you want from her after talking to her. You are not going to number close just about any girl. If she is good enough, she is yours. If not, could she be good enough to be your friend? You will tell her what you expect and want from her and get it. There is no repetition, meaning that only thing that you experience more than once is the awesome results. You do not get ‘caught’ running game on anyone.

Downside is that it is harder to learn and internalise Natural Game.

I recognise the need to have guidelines when you start so I do not have condescending views on Method Game. Heck, there are some fun games, and little routines I love using every now and then. There are lots of free advice on both of these streams. I advise you to check them out and see which one suits you more. At the end of the day, it is you who will be doing it so it has to be you making the decision. You may want to try everything for a while to see what works for you. If it is the results that matter, you would have no problem with either of these ways. If you want genuinely great interactions and skill-set that you can use in every other aspect of your life however, I strongly advise Natural Game.

Most importantly though, whatever type of game you choose, you need to practice, practice and practice. It is the only way to get better. Being a theory junkie is not going to get you a girl friend or a lay…

Ali

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Ross Jeffries really needs no introductions. He is one of the most respected “Pick-Up GURUS” in the community, and he is known for NOT promoting any coaches unless he is REALLY convinced that what they are teacing is worth listening to.
I have had the pleasure of worning along side Ross a number of times, both in London and in L.A and we find that that the skills and techniques we both teach rarely clash or contradict.

Here is a TOUGH and HONEST interview I did with the “Daddy of Pick-up”
(Click on the photo below to WATCH the interview)

Shane:
I’ve gotta keep this brutally honest and to the point guys……………….The friend zone doesn’t exist. its an imaginary place men made up to cope with rejection.
”Friendship” isn’t a zone, either you are friends or you aren’t. if you aren’t her friend but you’re running around pretending to be and calling it the friend zone you’re just being fake.
Make your intentions known early on and if you to aren’t on the same page, keep it moving….it really is that simple but lets get a little into this.

If and/or when she offers u the contract of being her friend u tell her that u cant be friends with a woman u might possbily be interested in, and that you can be cool, or you can hang out; however you wanna put it instead. If u see urself as her ‘good friend’ and act like it, then thats the results u will get and u will be viewed as a penisless dude. Dont lie to her, but even more importantly dont lie to yourself. Your not that guy to listen to her problems and hear her nonsense about other guys doing the deed…your attracted to her right? you wanna connect with her right? you wanna sleep with her right? thats what i thought…..and she needs to recognise that mate. Being a playful, cocky flirt is one good way to convey your not that dude to talk about other guys to…being this way keeps her occupied mentally, she hasnt go time to talk about other guys because she’s too busy trying to sus you out…keep her mentally busy…Be THE guy she chats to HER friends about;-))

The friendzone in itself can seem like quicksand. It causes u to sink deeper and deeper the more u try to escape. The friend zone in itself is actually a verbal contract and a state of mind. A woman will put u in the friend zone if u dont declare ur interest in her or if you dont as they would say in sales ”close the deal”, then she will start calling u her ”friend” and ”buddy” and start telling u about other guys. BUT this contract is only as valid as a singnature on a real contract that u sign. She only wants to see where YOUR heart and mentality is because lets keep it real… shes not looking for more friends…Im sure she has PLENTY of girlfriends…and some. she may just be looking to have a subconconscious power trip over u, and power as u know is an addicting drug…beware!

…BUT the friendzone only exist if u accept it and until she acts right u just keep her on the back burner and focus on your life; whether it be business, work, family, art, or whatever your interested in. After all, you had a life before her and will have one with or without her. The irony is, by being this way inclined, your naturally more attractive in her eyes anyway. But your not doing this to be attractive, your doing this because having a fulfilling life in however way you see fit is the natural and normal thing for anyone to do. DO NOTT CATER…trust yourself and she will choose correctly…

Now If you really wanna see her whole vibe change… start talking to HER about other women in an unapologetic way. (treat her like a friend). If you can also start calling her babe, sexy and baby when ever she calls u. This will play with her subconcious on a level u wouldnt believe. Just sprinkle it in…dont over do it…say it once in a while and change the subject.

At the same time you can only can be put in the friend zone and remain in this zone if you don’t act. To me there’s a barrier that needs to be broken when first talking to a women. There are ways to break the barrier through conversation and physicality. You HAVE to talk to her like your not trying to be her friend. (Flirting, sexual inuendo, playful, cheekiness ets) When you get the chance you have to break that physical ice and make the right moves. NO MORE idle chatter and loitering. Your NOT her female friend. These are things we’ve all done in the past. In reality, who’s really go the time for all that? Know that Idle chatter and loitering are both smooth paths to the friend zone.

Understand that a women doesnt want a male friend if shes attracted you..if shes attracted, she wants to date u..she wants to be with you in all the ways you want her to…she wants to be with you in all the ways you want her to…For all that dont know wWhen your putting it down in the bedroom i sincerely hop shes the most vocal!! because women truely enjoy it more….If she wants to ”chill” with you or ”hangout ” as they say…and shes attracted theres ALWAYS a possibility in a womens mind one thing can lead to another…but you have to be bold with your intentions and your actions and go for it.

If you get caught in the zone start meeting and dating other women…the less women you have in your life the more value you will put on them and their interactions. If you stay social you will naturally radiate an aura of independance and non neediness that women naturally find attractive…If a man is not readilly availble she WILL feel the effects of not having him around all the time and it will hurt her mentally.
Start hanging out with other women….start talking about it…start trying new things…..start exploring

The problem a lot of guys are having these days is that they are operating out of an unrealistic philosophy of a man’s role in a woman’s life. We gott the media, and a lot of random softees all over the place telling men they need to be nourishing listeners who can also make a female giggle with a cute joke here and there.

That is NOT the role of a man to a woman. That’s more of the role of a female’s emotional sponge, girlfriend or her gay friend. Some guys go shopping with women, give them gentle massages, have six hour long gossip sessions, fix them all sorts of meals, and all other kinds of things without the women earning them…and with no form of sexual escalation!… while sitting back and wondering how that other guy who isnt doing up to half of these things, or as much for her at all keeps opening pandoras box like he created it..

A lot of men have been taught some awful nonsense that their role is to ‘please a woman.’ NO, a man’s role in my opinion, is to be that strong presence that holds things together and can see the ship he is captaining through stormy weather. A man sets down principles and direction, and stands on it whether she likes it or not. If she doesn’t like it, she can break out and find a man who is more ”agreeable” to her. It ain’t up to you to chase and please a female into being with you. It’s a woman’s job to choose up. You’re not here to be her friend, you’re here to be her MAN. Society tells you to mix the roles, which produces some weird diluted version, but most womens’ natural instincts pushes them away from that diluted concoction and towards that more raw, uncut masculinity.

Women are always talking about how they want a man that can share his weaknesses with her, can cry on her shoulder, he can rub his nipples because its kinky to her…ets etc etc then men end up surprised when that womens begins singing ”nice guy-sweet guy” chronicles to her friends when talking about you. It isnt about ‘what a woman likes,’ like I said before. It’s about you putting it down like a man, this is what she responds to.

But being a man sure isn’t easy. Manhood has been diluted these days. That’s why so much sweetness or less manly vibes circulate the atmosphere and guys are acting like females… And that’s why they are having so many problems with the ladies. Being a male doesn’t automatically make you a man. It’s the trials you go through, circumstances that you overcome, the philosophy you hold within and ultimately the actions that come from that philosophy that makes you a man. Be who your supposed to be and dont apologise for it. you will never look back afterwards.

And remember through all of this:

Be cool theyre just women
Be playful…its just a game

Keep learning and keep evolving,

Shane

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“The man who makes chemistry understands the interaction starts before a word has been spoken or eyes have even met”

Pre approach is the little few minutes or sometimes few seconds you have before the interaction begins, and boy oh boy aren’t those few seconds important. In this section we will be looking at how you can get yourself in the appropriate state before talking to a woman and how to prepare your self in terms of logistics. You will learn how to assess the situation in a manner that will be discreet. You will also learn how to extinguish any niggling doubts and last second nerves that even the best pick up artists get from time to time, but most importantly you will learn the art of never becoming outcome depending ever again.

This week we will be looking at..

Assessing the situation

Women are masters of this art! We are watching everything. We know who is coming through that door and who is leaving, we know whether the guy we like the look of is popular, has a girlfriend or is gay very early on, just by discreetly looking at him. We have the skill of “assessing the situation” down to a fine art. This applies to assessing other woman too. We are aware of when a stunning looking woman has walked in to the room, and we are also aware if other people are aware of her presence too. Yet men seem to be oblivious to how obvious they can be when they are the ones assessing situation. Its as if they are in the own bubble, and no one can see their facial expressions every time a hot girl walks by, or when they are standing in the middle of the room staring at a large group of girls, whilst everyone around them is dancing and having a good time. So here is some advice from a woman, who manages to assess situations without anybody realising it, even though I’m half blind! (I refuse to wear my glasses in public)

Before we get to the “opening line” we must first look at what is going on in that head of yours, the moment you actually spot the girl you wish to approach. First of all, if you’re a beginner, check out what the situation exactly is. There is a correct way of doing this in a discrete manner. You might think you are being discreet hanging around near her for ages, but be warned, woman are very aware of those guys who hang around them for longer than is necessary,

When this common scenario takes place, there seems to be 2 parallel universes going on. On one hand, the man believes that he’s being subtle and he thinks she’s not yet aware of his presence, she on the other hand is only too aware of his presence, in fact, she spotted him from the corner of her eye ages ago, she also knows very well that he’s struggling desperately to pluck up the courage to speak her, unfortunately the more he is delaying the moment the more he is decreasing his chances.

When me and my friends go out, we always laugh amongst each other (well, not me since I’m a little more sympathetic due to the nature of my work) at the guy who aimlessly stands close to us, bobbing his head uncomfortably and out of sync with music, every time one of us looks over, he looks away and then back, he attempts to smile at us now and again, and more often than not this guy will start looking at his cell phone at an imaginary text a few times too many. This whole sherade can last for ages, and by the time he has unsubtly danced his way over to the group from the chosen spot he seemed to be stuck to. He has unfortunately near to no chance of pulling anyone from the group. It sadly becomes apparent that he is unaware that he has been the cause of our giggling for some time.

There is of course a way to prevent this. If you are going with a friend to a bar or a club, a great way to check out the woman in the place, and of course to assess the situation of a particular woman, is to have your friend in front of you whilst you are talking to each other, Never EVER have him on the side of you, as it will become too obvious to the woman that you decide to check out. Girls hate going to the bar to get a drink when there is a long line of guys there, shoulder to shoulder. Their heads turn simultaneouslyas she walks by them, and again, she is fully aware even if those guys think they are being discreet.

If you are talking with your friend face to face, it shows first of all that you are there enjoying the company of your friend(s) regardless of whether there are hot woman all over the place, it shows you are content to take your time and enjoy your evening at your leisure. The clever part is that not only can you get a lot more of an idea of the situation but you can also do it more discretely without her or her friends suspecting. Now and again you look over your friends shoulder, to see whats going on, he can also be assessing the situation behind you, in case something better comes along. This way you can literally have eyes at the back of your head, you get a 360-degree view of the room. Woman have plenty of subtle signals that we give each other when we spot someone we like, or someone we want to get away from, or someone who we think is attached, why don’t you guys get some more of these subtle signals.

I think it’s funny that sometimes when I’m walking behind 2 guys in the street, and when turns around and see me, then he whispers something to his friend, who will automatically look at me to, and then he will stop dead in his tracks and look over to the nearest shop window, and wait for me to go by so he can check out the back of me too, just in case I had a tail or something like that.

I once said to a guy who did this as I went passed him.

“Next time you want to check me out from the back, it’s a good idea you don’t pick a “Mothercare” store to look at first.

What you are looking for

A true pick up artist sees less between him and his target, than another man normally would, What the average man may see as obstacles that are in the way, such as the chance she may have a boyfriend, or the fact she might be a bitch, or whether she’s with a large group of people, a mixed group, where by there are men with her as well as woman, or whether she looks angry or not, A pick up artist will not see these as obstacles, in fact his view point will take a 180 degree turn, and as a result, he will see some of these so called obstacles as positives. For example.

If she looks like a bitch, then maybe everyone else is thinking the same thing, there for she’s probably getting hassled much less, then the friendly girl.

If she’s with a large group of friends, rather than seeing this as a hindrance, he will see this as a way of making it easier, to approach her, as she will fill less venerable than if she was on her own or with just another friend, and if she doesn’t like him then she’s always got another few good-looking girl friends he can get an intro to. (Note, the very fact a man shows he is not scared of opening a large group of woman, gives him extra points before he has even finished his first sentence)

If you learn the techniques that teach you the ways that give you the ability to crush these obstacles, and of course you practice and perfect them you will begin to see EVERY woman as a potential. But if you are beginner then its best to not plunge in to the deep end, you don’t want to start off approaching mega bitches, or girls who are in a long-term relationship. Especially since we have not covered those areas yet. Keep it relatively easy when you start.

As a beginner you should be looking out for the following:

Is she getting hassled a lot? If the answer is yes then try to see what the guys seem to be doing that is making her reject them, and watch how she is rejecting them too.

See who she is with, is it a mix group? if the answer yes, could one f those guys be her boyfriend?

If she is in a big group of girls, check to see if she is the alpha or the leader of the group, and if she’s not, then who Is?

See what sate she is in, is she in a high energy state, where by she’s dancing laughing, possibly drinking and basically showing to everyone how much fun she is having? Or is she in a low energy state where she seems to be sitting, not really laughing too much and barley dancing. This will determine what energy state you should approach her with.

Check out the area around her, where are you going to stand or sit when talking to her, you want to be in the best position possible, if she’s sitting down, look to see if there is a near by chair you can grab, or if there is room next to her, you don’t want to be crouching next to her knees on the floor for half an hour, and you don’t want to be standing up looking down at her for too long either. Be careful when you see an empty space next to her at a crowded bar, this space is empty for a reason, and it’s probably because that spot is the part of the bar where the staff walks through. You don’t want to talk to her, with bar and waiting staff asking you to move every 2 minutes.

hope this helps..
much more effective ways of dealing with the dreaded approach anxiety can be found in my book
“15 STEPS TO BECOMING A MASTER SEDUCER”