How to get a girlfriend

posted on November 24, 2012 19

Kezia Noble is the world’s leading female DATING COACH and attraction expert for men.
She is the most well known Dating Coach in London, New York and Los Angeles this is thanks to her flawless reputation for getting men REAL results and her best selling book ‘The Noble Art Of Seducing Women’

What better way to learn how to attract women and how to get a girlfriend than by learning from a woman dating coach?

I know I know, most women usually dish out the same old vague and nice but essentially ineffective advice such as:

“Just be yourself”
“Be more confident”
“Make her laugh

Which in all fairness is pretty lame! And you are probably sick of your female friends giving you weak feedback. Equally, you are also probably tired of hearing the arrogant and ineffective advice from your male friends.

However, have you ever considered what it would be like to get an HONEST female opinion and an HONEST and NO NONSENSE and DIRECT insight into the female mind?
 Obtaining such a powerful tool, is something that most male dating coaches and so called pick up artists will struggle to give you.

Kezia Noble is the worlds leading female DATING EXPERT FOR MEN, find out more about how she has helped over 7,000 men across the globe to find their ideal woman here: About Kezia Noble


Men might not like to admit it, but even they have convinced themselves and others that they are fulfilled with one night stands and casual flings, there is the desire and a hope that one day they will find the woman of their dreams.

A man ultimately seeks that special woman who will love him, inspire him and who he can love back unconditionally.
So how can you achieve this?

Let me start by asking you this:

Will you find a girlfriend by continuously sleeping with a never-ending list of women until something just ‘clicks’ with one of them?

Will you find a girlfriend through your social circle? Whereby one of your friends introduces you to a great girl who also happens to be looking for a boyfriend too!

Will you get a girlfriend at work?

Will you meet a girl randomly in a bar or a night club or even in the local book store?

Will you find her through online dating?

The answer to ALL these questions is ‘YES’

Never listen to people who say you will NEVER meet a girlfriend in a night club or online, because nice girls looking for boyfriends don’t hang out in bars, OR only desperate or ugly women join online dating websites. These opinions are totally unfounded and untrue.

There are literally millions of men who have met their girlfriends and even their wives via nightclubs and bars, and in regards to online dating, the figures speak for themselves (21 percent of americans found their partner through online dating)

What these men who have no problem in getting girlfriends have in common, is that they have been PROACTIVE with their search for a girlfriend. Most men rely on meeting a girlfriend through friends or at work, which obviously is a common way to find a girlfriend, but it is a LAZY way, and is something you have probably already relied on for too long.

The problem with relying on meeting your future girlfriend through friends, is that eventually your friends will get older and start settling down, and by the time you hit 30-35 the frequent introductions to their single female friends will dwindle. This will leave you with the option of meeting girls in night clubs and bars or online dating anyway, so why not get the practice in before then. It’s worth mentioning here that a lot of guys come to me or my courses is because they literally are out of practice when it comes to talking to women in clubs and bars, because they had spent years relying on introductions to girls from their circle of friends. Warning: Never be out of practice, because you never know when you will need to use those skills again.

My advice is to use all the possible resources that I have listed above , BUT, and this is really important, do NOT believe that if you still haven’t got a girlfriend that it just a matter of time!

You need to not only be proactive, but you need to also KNOW exactly what to do when you actually meet a girl, in order to get her to be your girlfriend. Otherwise you will be stuck in the cycle of meeting a girl and losing her and then meeting another girl and another girl and losing them too. So many wasted chances and opportunities are something you will regret as those chances and opportunities inevitably become less and less frequent.


Here are 5 rules you need remember in order to increase your chances of getting a girlfriend

RULE 1: “Have a clear list of what you want”

You might think that being open minded in regards to what you look for in a girlfriend will keep your options open. But in reality, you will end up coming across as the guy who will take whatever he can get! Women want to date a man who has high standards, as it makes us feel more special to be with him, and it also make us believe we have had to work for it. So make sure you have a clear idea of what you want and don’t be afraid to convey this to her. The chances are she will respect you a lot more and be more eager to please.

RULE 2: “Never be too available”

Men and indeed women too, tend to make the mistake of becoming to available and eager when they meet someone they really like. This results in the other one taking them for granted, and to be completely honest with you, it reeks of desperation. A girl might say she likes a guy to call her and be available to spend lots of time with her, but in reality, women love to chase the guy and they respect him a whole lot more when he has demonstrated to them that he has a busy life and a fully booked diary of social events.

Make sure she appreciates the time she gets to spend with you, and in time, become more available, just make sure you don’t do it too soon!

RULE 3: “Don’t ignore her after you have had sex together”

Men often avoid seeing a girl again after she has slept with him, because he convinces himself that she cant possibly be girlfriend material if she slept with him so quickly. This is a ridiculously old fashioned point of view and it could ruin an amazing opportunity of a beautiful relationship. Do you really think that because a girl says ‘NO’ to sex until a certain amount of dates have taken place, and until her friends tell her she should, and providing the the guy has purchased enough gifts for her to decide she should sleep with him, that that makes her excellent girlfriend material?????A woman following dating advice from a magazine or demanding a man takes her out on expensive dinner dates before she sleeps with him does NOT automatically mean she will be loving wonderful girlfriend.

Make sure also not to go too overboard after you have both had sex together the first time either. Next day send her a text telling her you had a fun evening and a mention your plans for the day ahead to and ask her what her plans are for the rest of the week. This shows her you are not ignoring her but that you’re also not making yourself too available either. Suggest going for dinner around a week later.


RULE 4: “READ her”

Listen to those stories about her ex boyfriends, it might be dull, but it’s a great way to see what type of men she usually goes for. If she talks badly about her ex boyfriends and refers to them as bastards and womanizers, then take this is as a warning. This girl obviously goes for guys who treat her mean, which does not set a positive precedence for a happy relationship. Of course, she could have just had a run of bad luck, but in my experience of having a lot of female friends who endlessly complain about their heartless ex boyfriends, is that they tend to be caught up in an unhealthy cycle of being attracted to men who are no good for them.

If she speaks highly of her ex boyfriends, DO NOT get annoyed by it, instead welcome it as a sign that she has good taste in men and is still sincerely looking for a happy relationship.

RULE 5: “Let her make the first move”

What I mean by this, is that you need to let the girl bring up the idea of getting into a relationship with you, NOT THE OTHER WAY ROUND!

At some point, she will bring it up, and if she doesn’t bring it up directly, then trust me, she will make it clear to you that she’s angry about something. Rest assured that this is simply due to the frustration she feels as a result of you not making her officially your girlfriend. This is her way of communicating to you that she wants more from you, and therefore in this particular case it is perfectly ok for you to see this as a green light and to make her your OFFICIAL girlfriend.

OTHERWISE, never ask her to be your girlfriend or to make her feel cornered into making the decision to get into a relationship with you. Women want to chase a guy, they want it to be a challenge, and again this leads back to RULE 2 about never being too available.

There are lots of other brilliant little secrets that I have to share with you that will help you get a girlfriend QUICKLY.
Some of the skills and techniques I have to share are wickedly effective and produce surprisingly FAST results.

If you want to obtain these powerful secrets, be sure to check out my YOUTUBE VIDEOS or my LIVE TRAINING COURSES and of course my selection of e-books and DVDs on the PRODUCTS PAGE

I hope to see you soon

Kezia Noble

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If you want to start increasing your success rate with women, then make sure you check out the 7-day Mastery course or the Bootcamps that Kezia and her team are holding all year round.

Have more unanswered questions about how a dating coach can help you, read more about Kezia and the team.

19 thoughts on “How to get a girlfriend

  1. Tom Patterson

    I love flirting with girls. Despite being married, (my wife calls me a big flirt), I enjoy flirting with girls. I have even had the misfortune of having relationships with married women. I have a bigger weakness for beautiful women, I can’t resist them and flirt with them, tease them. Now, I stop before things go too far, I don’t close the deal. This has led to some embarassing situations where after a little bit of wine, if I happen to go back to her place; she confesses quite loudly that she has wanted me since the very begining, (embarrasing if she lives with roomates). To tell the truth, if I could take your “7 day master course” I would be in heaven and hell; (hell if I come across a very possesive woman). But it is the encounter and the flirting I enjoy the most (now that I am married).

    Tom Patterson

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  3. J

    There is only one Man who Will make you completely fulfilled, and that Man is Jesus. I promise that if you seek him and let him into your heart you will experience rest and Everlasting Joy. I pray that you will take this message to heart and experience TRUE Happiness in Jesus. God Bless. ps. Pray to Jesus about all of your problems so that he will help you like he has helped me always.

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  5. Yoann

    Great article Kezia, you improve our lives, thanks a lot because I don’t have enough money to pay for your paid products, but I will because I feel so grateful for the advice your provide her for free. Keep going, you rock!


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  7. Jeremy McCammant

    I would change the advice heading from “How to get a Girlfriend” to “How to get a Lifelong Marriage-Expecting Girlfriend”, since love and marriage is what men really want in life.

  8. daniel

    what if she accidentally kids around about me and her being a couple? does that mean that she is interested and that I should ask her out? you can email me kezia if you have some extra time

  9. DalePNW

    Yup, advice from a beautiful women on how to approach women can’t be beat. Your articles are enough to give all of us shy guys hope that there great girls out there waiting to be approached. We just need the basic techniques to get started then learn from there.

  10. truth

    These tips will not work unless you are a superrich underwear model. The average guy HAS TO BE available all the time. If you are not available she will either be angry or not want you anymore right away. High standards are even worse. In fact I take EVERY girl that wants me. I do this because I have to. When I was younger I only had some things that I wanted. This did not work because I am not good enough. Rule 5 is nonsense too. The guy has to make the first move and tail after her when ever she wants you, which goes hand in hand with the rule about availability. Doing something else is only possible for rich men. A normal man cannot do this as a woman does not want him anyway so he has to beg and spend all his money on women so that maybe some random woman looks at him one day.

  11. Drago Black

    i know exactly what i want in a gf (a nerdy girl that enjoys anime, video games, and geek culture, likes to work out(i find women who work out a very attractive quality), enjoys nature and will go hiking with me, can hold a smart conversation, doesn’t care about my wallet and about me buyin stuff for her because i want a woman that wants me for me not my wallet, is mentally stable, likes to cuddle with me while we watch movies/anime enjoys my humor and home cooking[i make awesome food like garlic and herb cheese bread sandwiches with roast beef, smoked turkey, honey glazed ham, provolone cheese, lettuce, onion, tomato or maybe a nice soup or a nice steak with a hickory smoked sea salt and freshly ground herb rub]) but I’m also just naturally a nice guy (helpin’ people out when i can, treatin’ women with respect, listening to what they have to say and helpin’ them with problems in their lives) i can’t help it, but i also work out by doing blade weapon martial arts(its a full body work out plus it also works on concentration aim and control), im also a gentleman (and try my best not to be a douchebag), i have many many hobbies which keep me busy(like hanging with the local furries doing charity work and entertaining people, playing D&D, working out, going hiking, cosplaying with the local nerd and geek groups, watchin anime, cooking, helping my landlord with repairs biking around town for about 4-7 hours,…ect), i don’t put up with bullshite(like cheating; if she cheats there’s a reason like shes not happy with me subconsciously, or she wanted to end the relationship),i don’t mess with other womens relationships, i don’t believe in cheating(ever no matter the reason), I’ed rather talk out a problem than argue (even though i can be bad at explaining things that lead to arguing due to a misunderstanding and i try to explain it in every way possible till what i mean gets a crossed),i do have a habit of explaining things, i don’t have a vehicle(but everyone does have their problems and quirks)….basically i don’t understand what i’m doing wrong?

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