Picking up women at the GYM
A lot of guys ask me what the best way to pick up a woman in gym is.
From my personal experience, the absolute last thing I want is a guy to approach me when I’m all sweaty with no make up working on toning up my abdomen muscles, but not only that, most people when they are in the gym are either listening to music or watching the big TV screens they often have up on the wall, with their earphones.
This makes it extremely difficult to go and talk to her (unless you are her personal trainer of course)
So my message from a female perspective as well as a pick up coach is not to try and make conversation whilst she is doing a work out.
So what are the options?
After doing a work out in the gym, women (myself included) usually like to grab something healthy to eat and the near by café/sandwich bar very close by or a coffee in the gyms canteen area. This is a far more ideal place to approach her.
You will obviously have your gym bag with you, so when you approach her she will know you have also just been to the gym too, no need to ask her what she been up to etc.
Avoid telling her that you “noticed” or “saw” her in the gym, as this will come across a little sleazy, as if you had been checking her out whilst she was doing squats.
Go in casually and say one of the following:
“ Your like me, as soon as the work outs over I need to have a coffee/sandwhich/smoothie” Then introduce yourself and sit down at her table or near her table, so long as you are in speaking distance. This makes a nice, smooth and natural opener, and PLUS you will be already stating that you both have something in common.
Then make an observation about something in the gym that was happening or make light hearted fun about the really creepy guy who was there..”What? didn’t you see him?” She will probably laugh playfully and ask about who he was or what he was doing. Now since there was no creepy guy in the first place, you don’t want to go on about this for too long, just end that topic by saying that she should keep her eyes out for him next time.
At this point you should start transitioning to a conversation away from any type of gym related subject. A lot of men make the mistake of only talking about the gym or workouts or exercise wit the girl, as he believes this is the only thing that they have in common. Unfortunately if you continue talking about any opening subject for too long, you make it harder for yourself to transition on to new topics.
Just tell her what you do, or what holiday you just came back from or what holiday you’re thinking of going on. She will be far more responsive by now, and will start opening up to you too.
Since you are very likely going to see her again, you have the option of building up the relationship over a period of time, but the other option is to ask her for her number before you go.
The problem here is that she will be slightly concerned whether you both hit it ff or not, because if you don’t, then she might find it awkward inevitably bumping in to you at the gym again. A good way to solve this, is to ask her when she usually goes to the gym BEFORE ASKING FOR HER NUMBER. Whatever her answer is, just casually tell her this:
“Oh that’s a shame, today was one off for me, I usually only go in the evenings/morning/lunch time (whatever the times are that she DOES NOT go to the gym).This will also plant the seed in her head that she will probably not see you again unless she accepts meeting up with you for a date.
I hope this helps all you men out there who are looking to connect with women at your gym.
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February 12th, 2011 at 5:16 am
That’s interesting – not to approach a woman working out at the gym?! Thats counter intuitive and missing out on a potential opportunity. What would Ali or Beckster do if they were on the bikes and an HB sat next to them – they’d run some cool ‘game’ like “lets race” or something like that.
I’m sure that I will not turn into a pumpkin if I talk to a beuatiful women at the gym because its socially un-savvy, can be situational/opinion – a quick interaction to make some kind of impact snd ‘run’ into them later. Recently, I was smashing on a ‘rower’ and ‘challenged’ this HB who was next to me, asked her opinion (b’day present for my female friend), quick challenge, quick Statement of Interest/hi-5… I’m busy… There was no awkwardness there at all. Plus, surely a gentleman would say/do something if he were to a ‘lady’ requiring help. Am I right?
Just do it guys (social savvy/discretion advised though).
All the best
December 19th, 2012 at 4:36 am
Your coach Johnny gave me a tips about how to talk girls in the gym.It worked.
Personally,Busy peak time,different crowd comes to the gym, if you have good body plus confidence.They seems like ok with approach.I even over-heard “I come to gym to meet healthy fit men.”
It really depends and many women hate macho type but I have seen this guy approaches hot women and he actually hold great conversations with them.
Yes,serious work out time.This article is right.