Girls with unusual names
The exotic alternatives to names such as Lisa,Sarah,Christine and Victoria are increasingly on the rise.
Either the parents made the choice ( my excuse) or the girls decided at some point to rid herself of the terrible burden inflicted on her, of having a name that fails to make impact and that no one will remember, or that everyone else has.
It might surprise you to know that 7 of my female friends have changed their name, and 2 of them have even changed their names twice!
Now this blog is not poking fun at the girls called:
Believe me, they have had fair share of fun being made out of their names, so I’m not going to add any more to that.
What I want to to look at, is how men react to girls when they tell them their name for the first time. I know from FIRST HAND experience what it is like to have a crazy/weird/exotic ( describe it as you like) name. I used to hate it, and would insist on calling myself Louisa when I was a little girl, simply because I was embarrassed about my strange name that my parents gave me. Though off course, in time I learned to love it!
However, I get pretty bored and tend to have an immediate negative reaction to people ( women and men) who ask me to repeat it a few times, and then sometimes ask me to even spell it, or who get trapped in their head as they proceed to pronounce it three times out loud, until they get it right. From my personal pet hate are men who ignore its originality completely!
Every girl I know who has an unusual name, always says that she experiences the exact same responses from people and as a result, she too forms a slight negative reaction to them. Not a great start I think you will agree?
So next time you see a hot girl, and she happens to have an unusual name, try and AVOID the following responses
“ Can you say that again please x2” Once is OK, but not twice.
“What kind of a name is that?”
“Thats a weird name”
“Does it mean anything”
“Oh OK..my name is..”
This is what us girls don’t like hearing back when we tell guys our names. I mean come on guys, we are not a Sarah or a Janet, and secretly our names mean a lot more to us than girls with more common names, because of the experiences and reactions we have received due entirely to our unusual names. Whether we grew up learning to love them or whether we actually chose them. So stop being too ‘cool for school ‘by ignoring the unusual name, and stop treating it like some sort of an opportunity for a quick spelling test. How she spells her name adds no importance or impact to the interaction.
Instead, try the following responses:
“ Was that name fun growing up with?”
“I always thought a name determines a character- you agree?”
“At last, an interesting name, Im sick of all these Johns and Sarah’s I’ve been having to remember all night”
“Awesome name, I seriously hope you chose that..don’t tell me your parents get the credit”
“ I reckon your siblings have cool names like that too”
“Im jealous of people with cool names, they always seem to get a head start in life”
“That is the second best name I have heard” ( she will ask you what your first choice is)
You proceed to say either Christmas or Trinity, as girls always respond well to these two names for some reason.
You need to use response that are outside the box , without the need to rely on being rude or obnoxious, such as the case with a very well known pick up artist in Los Angeles who proceeded to get my name wrong on purpose all the time, and who told me it sounded like a name a stripper would call herself. That just made me think of him as a total loser, and by the way, his name is by far the weirdest name I have ever heard and it suited his ugly personality too (try and think of the sound a cat makes, and that’s what his name was)
With the choice of responses i have shared with you in this blog, you will find that by using any one of them, you will be able to take that non-eventful moment of tedious name swapping, and transition it quickly and smoothly to a full blown conversation.
She will really warm to your response to her name, as it will make impact with her without you having to lower value. BUT more importantly, it gives her an adequate amount of room to take the conversation further herself.
Never miss an opportunity guys, and an exotic/funny/crazy/unique name is often an opportunity that unfortunately goes to waste..I should know!
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