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Conversation is a dying art-form. Thanks to social media, texting and those horrible (but highly useful) inflictions called ‘smart phones’ People are finding it harder to keep a conversation going and sustaining its initial impact for longer than a few minutes.

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The other day I was sitting in a cafe, and a huge group of teenagers walked in, I prepared myself for the inevitable cacophony of voices, chatter, laughing and shrieking that teenagers are known for whenever entering public places. However, I was both slightly relieved and saddened to hear the deafening bubble of silence that enwrapped these young adults as they sat staring at their little glowing screens. Totally disengaged with anything that was happening around them.
It’s little surprise that we have become a generation that struggles with art of making people laugh, using evocative language to invite and stimulate another mind. We have lost the art of banter, verbal flirtation, witty provocation, story telling, cold reading and so much more.
So it wont surprise you to know that these are some of the most common sticking points that men come to me with:

Running out of things to say.
Coming across as dull.
Boring conversations.
Conversations fizzling out too soon.
Not being able to keep the woman’s attention.
Unable to transition smoothly from opening line to a full blown conversation.
The inability to convey their true character.

Luckily, social dynamics and conversation skills are the area of seduction that I love best!
Which is why I’ve released a Youtube video with some great FREE content that will help you with this specific point and ultimately increase your results with women.
Enjoy:

Remember to check out my THREE Specialised Conversation Skills programs that will really give you that edge over the guys she meets:

Confidence Unleashed.

The 10 Hook Lead System.

How To Make Her Want You.

There’s a fine line between being respectful and being over respectful.
Being overly respectful is when you end up idolising a woman to the point that you feel too compromised to make a move on her for fear of coming across as too disrespectful. It’s a bit like going from one extreme to the other.

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A man will often try to act like a ‘white knight’ with the women that he likes, by trying to somehow ‘prove’ they the’s not like the other guys that just want her for a one night stand, and he will do this by being overly respectful towards her and by suppressing his desires entirely in the hope that she will one day wake up and realise that he’s the guy for her. He’s her white knight.
Keep dreaming guys. This rarely happens.
So how do you show your intent whilst showing her respect? How do you make a move without coming across as a sleaze-bag? And why do women want to feel both respect and desires the same time?

All the answers to these question are revealed in the video:

If you want to start getting SUPER FAST results with women..

..then remember to check out my ‘Attraction To Seduction’ program. Stop settling for whatever you can get, and start getting what you want.

Since my video ‘How to attract younger women’ I have been inundated with requests to make a video on how to attract older woman too. It seems there’s a lot of young men out there who have become disenchanted with younger women and are now looking to replace the latest model with something a little more vintage. Personally I’ve always had a weakness for younger men, that’s not to say that I haven’t experienced lust with an older man, it’s just that I have the natural tendency to be lured by the charm of a younger guy.
I’ve often reflected on why this should be case, and it seems I’m just one of those people who loves adoration (That’s radical honesty for you!) But it’s a little more than just that. In my experience, younger guys are less jaded and they also ten to come with far less baggage (No ex wives to worry about!) and they generally have a more positive outlook on life and their own persona trajectory, which serves as a great life jacket for us more cynical thirty-somethings, drowning in worries about mortgage payments, ageing, kids , etc.

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However, when a young guy tries to act older than his years and compete with the older guys, it ends up being a complete turn off! Unfortunately this is a very common mistake that younger guys tend to make again and again. In this video, one of my youngest instructors on the team, Matt, gets to share some amazing tips on how young men like him can seduce beautiful older women. I really enjoyed making this video with Matt, and as you can tell, I fully approve every piece of advice that he shares. Well, I am an older woman now…Sort of.

Enjoy the video:

How to address the Boyfriend Dilemma.

This article was written by Sam, who is currently the youngest instructor on my team.
Don’t let his age (22 years old) influence your estimate in regard to his experience! He has helped hundreds of my students who have attended my 7-Day Mastery Program, and that includes both young and more mature men.

I believe that maintaining one’s integrity is integral to one’s long term success, happiness and self-esteem. This relates to both the sphere of dating as well as life in general. You must know exactly how you feel about what you are doing. For example, under what circumstances would you try and date a girl with a boyfriend? For some guys, “I have a boyfriend” will signal the end of their communication with the girl and that’s fine. Other guys won’t care at all, and will keep trying, disregarding her relationship and feeling no sense of internal conflict in pursuing a ‘taken’ girl. Others, still, will want to enquire about the nature and circumstances of the relationship: is she happy in her relationship? Is it a long-term relationship? Is it an open relationship? Is it falling apart…? All of these, if they truly reflect your values, are legitimate. This article however, will address only the third demographic, as this reflects the approach that is true to my own values. You must have an understanding of your own personal value system, knowing where your own personal lines are, and how you really feel about what you are doing, or else you will compromise your own integrity in the process.

Regardless of whether or not she truly does have boyfriend, she has probably said this line to many other guys in your position. Some will have stopped in their tracks or walked away, others will have given off the typical sucker responses, a few of which I will cover herein.

Receiving the “I have a boyfriend” response from a girl you are attracted to may cause a number of immediate obstacles: Firstly, there is the difficulty in continuing to express interest after receiving this response, as the girl might seem to have disqualified herself as a potential romantic interest from you. In fact, she may feel that there is ‘nothing there’ as soon as you stopped her, as her boyfriend response has so often lead to the end of the interaction. Secondly, there is your own moral compass to consider: do you really feel okay with yourself, trying to date a girl in a relationship? Isn’t that ‘sleazy’? How would you like other guys to act this way with your girlfriend?

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I usually encounter two different responses from clients when they get the boyfriend response:

1) To rattle off the classic but cliched: “cool. I have a goldfish/cat/etc”, which often gets a laugh, but necessarily compromises either your personal values or your sexual intent – either you acknowledge that she has a boyfriend and that will try to date her despite this, without further enquiry, which is a mind-set outside of the paradigms of this article, or you acknowledge the boyfriend and imply that you do not intend to date her, and that she has told you a presumptuous and irrelevant fact, which removes intent and limit the sexual potential from the interaction.

2) To ignore the question entirely and continue to communicate as if nothing has been said. This is a short term fix, and when the interaction draws to a close, you are both aware that she has a boyfriend and that this has not been addressed. Both of the above responses ignore the boyfriend dilemma, rather than addressing it.

This article will propose a more intuitive way to address this dilemma head-on, creating the outcome which is congruent with the stated value system, every single time. Example:

Her: “I have a boyfriend”

You:

1) “I don’t believe you” (hold eye contact)

If you have received coaching from me in the past, you will know how much value I place on the ability to decode body language. In this situation, if you are relaxed, and are holding eye contact, you can often tell from her response whether she truly does or does not have a boyfriend. If she shuts her eyes as she speaks, or stutters or slurs her words, or she looks down and to the left, then she is probably not telling the truth. She may say “haha how did you know?”, or some variation of this, in which case you can respond with “it’s actually really obvious, you are a terrible liar” (very cheeky) or “I can just tell” (more intense), or some variation of these. It is more likely, however, that she will say something along the lines of “no, I really do…”, in which case you can respond with…

2) “What’s his name..?”/”Is his name Dave?” (always gets a laugh)

This response shows that you are not dissuaded by her words alone, and are taking the initiative to actually find out more about her and her life, whilst simultaneously addressing the problem, in a non-needy and non-sucker manner. By guessing a fairly amusing name for her boyfriend (sorry to the Daves out there) you can keep the conversation light whilst demonstrating your sense of humour as well – and she will in all likelihood tell you a name. By this point, if she still asserts that she has a boyfriend, and she gives a name instantly, whilst holding eye contact, then she probably does. If she pauses, then you can light-heartedly accuse her of lying, and bring some sexual tension into the interaction by disbelieving her story and seeing past her words – demonstrating your intuition and awareness. In both cases, the next question is…

3) “Is he nice to you…?”

Again, you must be aware of her non-verbal communication here, as it provides a very lucid window into her relationship. This is the point of decision. If she says confidently “yes”, and tells you they are very close or that she really likes him, you can close the interaction with something like “that’s rare these days, it’s refreshing to hear. He’s a lucky guy, you’re beautiful. Have a lovely day” and everyone leaves a little bit happier, your integrity remains intact. If however she hesitates or expresses uncertainty, or plainly says that he isn’t nice to her, then you can say the golden response:

“That’s very honest of you. Well, I’m not a home-wrecker and I don’t like to interfere.. But we are young and beautiful… and things fall apart… 2 months down the line, when shit hits the fan, I think you’d regret not meeting the handsome blond guy for a drink”.

This should be spoken with a touch of irony, a slight smile to show that you are aware that it is slightly ridiculous. Please, paraphrase and personalise this concept according to your personality and preference. There is something compelling and romantic to this response, and she will often laugh at this and agree, give you her number, and the two of you will have built a fun and compelling narrative together, in the knowledge that you are not encroaching upon a happy relationship, rather, displacing a probable douche-bag.

Find out more about the 7-Day Mastery Program where you can get to work one on one with Sam and all the other instructors on my team.
The 7-day Mastery Program is a tailor-made experience which means that you will receive persoanl one on one training with Kezia and all the expert instructors and wing girls on her team.
Remember to download your FREE brochure HERE.

Why she thinks you’re boring.

You’re not boring.

You know that.

Your friends know that.

So why does she think you’re dull?

Why does she friend-zone you?

Why does she show little or no enthusiasm when you talk to her?

Because you’re stuck in the Nice Guy trap that’s why!

Other dating coaches won’t tell you this, instead, they will tell you to carry on being Nice and tell you that it’s the woman’s problem for not liking you.
I honestly think some dating coaches actually want guys to stay in that trap so they can squeeze more money out of them!

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Here’s the truth that you need to hear.

She will NEVER sleep with you just because you were nice.

She will NEVER sleep with you if you obsessively try to be as inoffensive and pleasant as possible.

She will NEVER sleep with you because you politely agreed with her and bent your own reality in accordance with hers.

She will NEVER sleep with you if you continue to hide behind that DULL Nice Guy persona.

Why?

Because HE’S NOT YOU!

You have so much more going for you and I’m not just saying that to make you feel good either.

I have helped thousands of men, and nearly all of them are stuck in the Nice Guy trap. Some of them are not even aware of it. Once I get to know them, I show them all the brilliant facets to their characters. Their passion, their beliefs, their interests, their own individual sense of humour, their altruism their opinions their goals…the list goes on and on!

And yet, when they meet a woman they’re attracted to.BOOM! They automatically become that boring, dull Nice Guy.

In my new book ‘How To Make Her Want You’ :

I will show you exactly how to replace those Nice Guy behavioural traits with more dynamic and impactful responses and behavioural triggers.

I will show you exactly how to turn your dull conversations with hot women into incredibly evocative interactions that will make her want to see you again and again.

I will show give you a complete system that will prevent any chances of you getting friend-zoned ever again!

Where can you find such incredibly value information?

In my latest book ‘How to Make her Want You’

Find out more about the rest of the incredible stuff you will receive ( that I didn’t even mention yet!) by following THIS LINK.

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This article was written by Sam, who is currently the youngest instructor on my team.
Don’t let his age (22 years old) influence your estimate in regard to his experience! He has helped hundreds of my students who have attended my 7-Day Mastery Program, and that includes both young and more mature men.

How to Make Your Texting Less Awful.

The ultimate goal of texting is not for your own, or for the girl’s amusement, it is to meet up with her and get to know her better, as you cannot (really) get to know someone or build a connection over text – so there is literally no good text to send. You cannot build attraction, comfort, or anything with a few words. Ultimately, there is a set of principles which I shall cover herein, that will help to guide the way you use texting from the lower tier of “Fucking Awful” to the highest tier of “Neutral”. Mostly the process is a deductive one, where there is really no good approach, just a number of potentially bad ones.

During a fun and engaging interaction, I always encourage my students to build narratives between them and the girl, by creating little story-lines about the two of you, to build comfort and a sense of connection between you, whilst demonstrating your creative intelligence.

Examples:
“We’re like superheroes, here to inspire people to wake people up and talk to each other”

“We’re going to have a honey moon in Norway under the northern lights, a penthouse apartment in New York… Jacuzzi on top, ferns growing all around, fairy lights, and views across central park… You can invite your family during the week, but its just us on the weekends – We need some privacy” (self-consciously ironic and ridiculous)

“I felt drawn to you for some reason… Everyone looks so sad and bored, I feel like we’re the happiest people here right now”

These little narratives, which I will elaborate upon in my upcoming blog: ‘The “WE” Frame’, provide powerful ways to understand her and what she likes, whilst showing your own interests, intelligence and creativity. They bring the two of you together as a team, reassembling the traditional ‘You vs Her’ frame, which makes an interaction look like a struggling ‘pick-up’, into a ‘We’ Frame, where both of you are on the same team.

So when it comes to texting, you have these little narratives to play with, allowing you to avoid the cliched jargon that women have come to expect and despise. For example, by starting with the generic:

“Hey, it’s (insert name) from the other day. How are you?/how’s your day been?”
You are demonstrating that:
A) You have nothing interesting or creative to talk about
B) You are expecting your communication to divulge in to small talk
C) There was nothing particularly special or unique about your interaction.

So what is the reverse of this…?
A) You are creative + interesting
B) You don’t care for small talk
C) Your interaction was special and unique.

So for instance if you were teasing her about being a dominatrix (a sexual narrative), and having a funny hat that looks like a museum piece, bring this into your texting! You shouldn’t need to remind her who you are, so instead engage her memories of the interaction and re-evoke the feelings she has (humour, attraction) whilst you were talking… So:

“Good evening Cleo Patra, I heard sirens out my window earlier.. I hope you haven’t robbed the national museum’s rare hat collection again..?!”.

You should engage with fun memories of the conversation to stimulate good emotions, and use your creativity, without expecting her to have forgotten who you are already. And most importantly you are taking the pressure off her to reply. This is a fun text to flirt back to… She may say something like:

“Guilty as charged ;).. I just can’t help self, it’s the inner seductress leading me astray…” .

Now the conversation is fun and unusual and builds on your in-jokes and personal connection. You can continue along these lines for a few back and forths, or as you like and see fit. After 3-10 back and fourths (*guidelines not rules) You can (in a very low pressure way) ask to see her. So… Instead of the ‘Fucking Awful’:

“Would you like to get a coffee with me? let me know when you are free”
(FUCKING BORING + PRIORITISING HER TOO MUCH + PUTTING PRESSURE ON HER TO MAKE A DECISION)

You could try the ‘Neutral’: “I’m pretty busy this week with boring meetings, but I know a trendy new place in (somewhere near where you/she lives), let’s go destroy their street cred…” (FUN + ADVENTURE NOT CLICHED ‘DATE’ + LOW PRESSURE)
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Or also ‘Neutral’… “Hey I’m going on an adventure to hyde park at (….. insert time/day), come along if you have some time” (Again low pressure and different, adventure over date).

IF you’re texting fizzles out or loses its spark, I re-engage with a funny voice message (incredibly underused) about something I have seen or done that reminds me of her, OR a picture of something cool you have done (picture of a view from a cool bar/boating adventure/funny hat you have seen at work).

The key is that it is no big deal, no pressure on the outcome, and just a bit of fun – whilst demonstrating your personality, sense of humour, and creativity!

Start generating better responses from your text messages!
Find out how Kezia Noble can turn your numbers into dates with her best selling book ‘Numbers into Dates’

Why Nice Guys finish last

Who is the Nice guy?

He’s bland, forgettable and replaceable.

Women want a man who can connect with them, tease them, see their potential, make them feel desired rather than idolised and make them feel protected, but ultimately they are looking for a man of strength that they can respect.

The Nice Guy can’t fulfil any of these desires.

And here’s the headline you didn’t see coming..

YOU ARE NOT THE NICE GUY!

You are so much more than just a bland and forgettable experience, and yet like hundreds of the men who come to me, you probably made the wrong choice to market yourself as the Nice Guy because you somehow thought that you would get her by going in under the radar!

You might think that if you’re nice enough, pleasant enough and as inoffensive as possible, she’s somehow going to suddenly become attracted to you.

But I’ve got news for you!

This NEVER happens.

You can’t seduce women by going under the radar!

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What if I were to tell you that all those Nice Guy tactics you’ve been using can be instantly replaced with something so much more powerful and more authentic?

I’m Ready. Are You?

I’m ready to share with you the secret eleven principles of the attractive male .

I’m ready to share with you the twenty steps that will each take you closer to your goal.

I’m ready to show you many incredible phase shifting tactics that will help take you from being just the Nice Guy to the Amazing Guy.

But are you ready?

If you’re ready to take that step away from a reality of neediness and endless friend zones and take a bold step into a reality of abundance, self value and real results with women then check out my latest book ‘How To Make Her Want You’

I will be sharing with you some of my most powerful techniques, secrets and material that I’ve ever released.

This book is literally a step-by-step guide that will show you how to break free from the Nice Guy trap and never get friend zoned again.

Get more information about the book: ‘How To Make Her Want You’ e-book.

Did she friend zone you again?

Why is that?

Why do girls always insist that they’re looking for a nice guy, and when one comes along (like you) she friend-zones him!

I know exactly why women do this!

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It’s because they’re not really looking for a NICE GUY at all. They just say that because they think it’s the right thing to say, and because they’re usually unable to give a clear break-down of what they really want in a man.
It’s understandably frustrating to get friend-zoned again and again, and not know what actually to do in order to GET OUT of the friend-zone, or how to avoid it in the first place.

But you know what else is frustrating?

The dumb advice out there about this.

Such as:

“Just tell her how you feel”

or

“Just carry on being nice and you will find the girl who is right for you”

or

“Do something romantic and then when the moment is right, confess all your feelings to her”

This stuff doesn’t work.

In fact, if you follow any of this kind of advice then you’ll get LOCKED in the friends-zone forever.

Here’s the problem:

The nice guy is not the great guy. He’s not the guy who connects with her, makes her feel desired, keeps her second guessing or playfully teases her, and he’s not the guy who going to fu*k her like no man has she ever been with before.

Nice is an after thought, it’s a forgettable experience, and most of all it’s a trap!

Playing the Mr Nice Guy tactic is essentially just about becoming a fake and low-grade version of your true incredible self. Being Nice camouflages all your attributes, it stops you from taking action and it traps you into the friend-zone.

You are so much more than just another ‘nice guy’ and I will prove this to you.

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I will prove that you can tease her, seduce her, get her jumping through your hoops, and gain her respect without compromising any of your values,

I will prove to that there is a method that you apply to break free from any friend-zone situation, whether you’ve been friends with her for 2 weeks or even 2 years!

I can show you how to be the most attractive and dynamic version of yourself.

I can show you how to make a strong and sustained impact with women.

I can show you how to stop coming across needy and low value.

I can show you how to replace the weak Nice Guy game plan with a far more powerful system that can be applied in a way that remains completely congruent with your own personal values.

Find out how I can help you break free from the dreaded friend-zone and escape the Nice Guy Trap once and for all: HERE.
P.S

Full access to this information will be available on the 29th of September.

I’m super excited to be having my younger sister, Hadassa, back on my Youtube channel.
A recent video she did with me has received close to HALF A MILLION VIEWS, and she’s by far the most requested wing girl and female instructor on my team.

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In this video we get the chance to discuss the following:

Making sure she’s good enough for you.
Getting a girl to impress you.
Hybrid openers.
Techniques for overcoming Approach Anxiety.

Hadassa is spot on with so many of her insights and it’s always great to hear a shy girl’s perspective on dating and seduction too.

Enjoy the video, and make sure you soak up that information!

Find out more about the 7-Day Mastery Program where you can get to work one on one with Hadassa and all the other instructors on my team.
The 7-day Mastery Program is a tailor-made experience which means that you will receive persoanl one on one training with Kezia and all the expert instructors and wing girls on her team.
Remember to download your FREE brochure HERE.

He contacted us a few months before he took action and signed up for the 7-Day Mastery Program. He was understandably concerned about whether we could really help him or not.

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Some other companies he had contacted gave him the hard sell, and it seemed like they just wanted to take his money, but he didn’t sense that with us.
He listened to our huge collection of video testimonials and took the time to think hard about the decision he knew he needed to make.
Thankfully, Alex made the RIGHT choice, and enrolled onto the life-changing 7-Day Mastery Program.

Before you watch his testimonial, I need to warn you that there’s some really silly playful banter between us all, and yes you do get to see him and Ali, who is one of the top instructors on my team, give me a large dose of cheek!

But on a serious note, I sincerely hope this videos gives you the courage to abort your endless list of excuses and take action once and for all.

Here’s his story:

Testimonial for the 7-Day Mastery Course www.kezia-noble.com from kezia noble on Vimeo.

Find out more about how we can help to change your life and start helping you to get the results you’ve always wanted.
The 7-day Mastery Program is a tailor-made experience which means that you will receive personal one on one training with Kezia and all the expert instructors and wing girls on her team.
Remember to download your FREE brochure HERE.